When you look in the mirror, what do you see?
Is it the same thing others see?
When I look in the mirror, I see a woman who has taken 41 years to grow into herself. To finally start accepting who she is and be ok with it.
When I look in the mirror, I see a woman who just wants her clothes to fit. To find a pair of jeans that cover the areas they’re intended to cover and look flattering. Are you paying attention to this clothing manufacturers? It’s not me. It’s you.
When I look in the mirror, I see a young girl who just wanted to be accepted but was never pretty.
Now I have the beauty, but still struggle to see it and accept it.
I get stuck in my childhood belief that says I’m not pretty enough. Years of teasing imprinted on my brain and heart. Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will break my heart.
But the thing is it’s not true. Not then and not now. I was always beautiful in my own way. Still am.
Just like you.
Too often we listen to others’ opinion of what beauty is. Fashion magazines, tabloids, and other advertisers tell us beauty is a size 0 (that is not a size) with flawless skin and perfect dimensions (Sorry, doesn’t exist. Even Barbie’s dimensions were messed up). They show this on their pages but it’s not real. It’s heavy handed airbrushing and other photo editing. To the point that not even the model can recognize herself in the photo!
The truth is that what’s beautiful to me, may not be beautiful to you. And vice versa. Doesn’t make either any less beautiful.
Here’s the deal ladies. It’s not the comment itself that determines how we feel or view ourselves. It’s not the magazine photograph that defines beauty for us. It’s what we think about a comment or a picture that creates the feeling of not enough.
We can’t control other people’s definition of beauty. We CAN control ours and what we think about it.
Let me give you an example. When I looked in the mirror I would see all of my flaws. Many of us do, right? And I would think I would be beautiful if my nose was smaller, if I didn’t have acne, if my cheekbones were more defined. My thoughts always zoomed in on the negative, on the flaws.
And then I started noticing these thoughts. I started noticing what I was telling myself. So I started practicing finding beauty, finding the positive for every negative thought. I practiced and practiced until I noticed that I was focusing primarily on my positive traits, my assets.
I changed my thoughts and I started feeling better about myself.
- This week for 2 days, write down your thoughts as you notice them throughout the day. Then set it aside for a couple days.
- Go back and see what you wrote. Were your thoughts positive or critical?
- Pick one thought and flip it on its head. Turn it into a positive statement.
- Then practice it. Every day 3 times a day for the next week.
Repetition changes your subconscious.
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